Yesterday we had our final adoptive placement meeting for Amiya.
You might think that by the third time you do this, you know exactly what the meeting means and everything that will happen at the meeting.
But at this meeting, like every other one it seems, we learned something new.
I know there a lot of people who follow this blog to understand more about the foster-to-adoption process in order to decide if it’s something they are ready for so I wanted to put together a post around the adoptive placement meeting.
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The adoptive placement meeting is the final step before your day in court, Gotcha Day (or whatever you want to call it). This is the meeting where all final papers are signed, and any last-minute questions and details are discussed.
Here is a list of things:
- At least 10 days before this meeting, you are supposed to receive via snail mail (yeah, still a real thing guys) any and every single document and record the state has on your child. We received:
- Adoption Assessments
- Psychosocial and Medical History of Child
- Non-Identifying Birth Parent Information (This was basically the information birth mom provided at the hospital the day Amiya was born. Family information, health, future wishes for the child, etc.)
- Birth Records (Every single thing that happened from the moment Amiya was born at the hospital, tests, etc.)
- Post Birth Medical Records
- Full Court History (This is every single birth mom visit, court date, and event that has happened from the time Amiya was born until now. In other words, every time I wrote a blog post and said, “A court date happened, but I have no idea what happened at the hearing,” we now understand.)
- A few misc. state-mandated pamphlets (which I won’t even get into because I doubt every state has the same ones, and if I started in on it all, I might jump on a soap box I don’t want to jump on.)
- The day of the meeting, you sign:
- Future financial information
- The Adoptive Placement Agreement
And that is it!
It’s like you’ve prepared and been through the thick of it for so long that by the time the Adoptive Placement comes you’re just ready, willing, and totally able to understand and sign anything that comes your way.
Each county is different, but typically they have to file the Adoptive Placement before you get your final day in court date. We didn’t have to wait, and yesterday our case worker gave us the date of Amiya’s Gotcha Day.
Friday, September 22, 2017. Almost exactly 2 months to the day!
But what we learned yesterday that we never knew before was that the Adoptive Placement meeting means that even though we are still technically considered “foster parents,” she cannot be taken from us at this point. If anyone new stepped forward, the state could not take her from us.
In other words, the Adoptive Placement is a huge thing and it’s a day where you can fall asleep at night and take that final sigh of relief.
By the time our little Amiya is fully adopted, she will be 1 year and 4 months old. But I am telling you, each and every single one of you who have ever considered adopting from the foster care system……totally, 100% worth the wait.
Pretty soon she’s going to be, officially, Amiya Kaylee Hoffman. We have our photographer all booked for the day, and we can’t wait to introduce her to the world!