I am finally done putting together our current hair routine and products we use for Samarah (and soon, Amiya).
I didn’t want to share this post until I felt like I was starting to really get it and that the daily things I was doing were truly working. And they are. They really, finally, are.
How do I know this?
Because the salon owner told me so.
The Saturday before Samarah’s fourth birthday, Samarah and I returned to the salon after the nightmare that was the last time. Our babies have good hair and beautiful, little hearts, but their mama needed so much help in finding my groove for that good hair.
A few months ago when we were in the salon, it was a 3-hour visit where Samarah endured so much pain while everyone tried getting all the knots out. I felt horrible. I joke a lot about getting the “Mother of the Year” award, but seriously – that was one of my lower moments. (The image below is from this last time when her hair was in much better shape even prior to the wash, cut, and braid.)
Because I had failed to get my hands dirty and learn about her hair and how to do it, I put my little angel though so much pain.
That day, though, I learned so much. I vowed to never let it get like that again.
I took every last word they told me and product they recommended for her, and applied it – all of it – well, most of it.
And what happened that Saturday? The salon owner told me I have done an incredible job. Samarah only flinched a couple times when her braids were going in (totally normal, btw). They were able to comb through and cut her hair with ease. And our entire stay was only about an hour. (Image below was taken shortly after they had put her braids in.)
Finally….I think I’m catching the groove!
And so I wanted to share with you our hair routine and products. And guess what? For most of you, this post could be totally irrelevant. But for those it is relevant, you might be super grateful, and learn a thing or two for your own angel(s).
Hair Routine and Products
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- Coconut Oil. This one has been tried, tested, and true for us. It is also, by far, the purest of anything we use. I use the Virgin Coconut Oil sometimes, and Refined Coconut Oil other times. When I use the refined, I add in Lavender essential oils (and it smells amazing).
- Pureology (serious color care spray). It’s the spray that touts “21 benefits.” My ladies at the salon recommended this after pool days this summer but said it would help all year long.
- Shea Moisture Coconut & Hibiscus Hold & Shine Moisture Mist. Another spray and I really like this brand. They also make one just for kids.
- Kinky-Curly Knot Today (natural leave in/detangle). We sometimes use this after bathtime. It works really well, but sometimes the feel of it drives me nuts. It’s kind of jelly-like.
- Luster’s Pink (oil moisturizer hair lotion). I’ll never forget the time a woman recommended this to me. She said, “Go get the pink lotion from Walmart. You’ll need it.” I had no idea what to expect because, well, “pink lotion?” But then, yes, it is sort of just like that – pink lotion. It works so well, though, and we use it a lot.
- Moroccanoil Hair Treatment. I am insanely spoiled by my BFF, and she gets this for the kids. It’s a deep treatment, smells awesome and you don’t need much to be effective.
- Paul Mitchell Marula Oil. Another deep treatment that my BFF gets us.
- Marrakesh Oil. And one last major one the BFF gets us.
Some days I do this in the morning and at night, but for the most part, it’s just a night routine. When I do it in the morning, I do it while she eats breakfast at the table.
- Samarah gets seated on her chair in the living room. She gets raw walnuts, almonds and/or chocolate chips during this time. She also watches TV during it. One of the keys to my success with this early on was the art of distraction. Yes…..with food and TV, and I don’t care because I’m cool with raising my children with whatever way works for us.
- I begin with the first section of her hair, taking the pony holder out. I grab one of the sprays listed above and spray the section.
- Then, I comb (with the wide-toothed comb listed below) through that section, making sure that by the time the combing portion is over, it is perfectly combed through, no knots or kinks or coils in sight.
- I grab the coconut oil or (Pink lotion) and place a small dab in my hand. I coat the section of hair with it. I’m basically just trying to ensure that it hits any and all dryness on her hair.
- Once the section of hair has been combed and perfectly moisturized, I twist it tight, and wrap it around into a small bun-like shape, then place the pony holder back in.
- This process is repeated for all 8 sections (4 on each side of her head). Sometimes there are 10 sections (5 on each side).
On a day-to-day basis, this is definitely time-consuming, but the bulk time and work come on bath days because on those days, we take all the ponies out, shampoo (not that often) and condition (then condition some more). And then, the hair has to be re-sectioned off, one-by-one. And let’s all be honest, I’m still not that great at this part. Her hair never looks perfectly sectioned off. Baby steps.
Some other tips I have learned from my hair girl include:
- Use a silk pillowcase at night (my cousin also bought Samarah a silk headwrap to wear – she won’t wear it yet – so we need to get this pillowcase). (The silk pillowcase should be used for Isaiah, too.)
- Keep shampoo days to a minimum (we barely ever shampoo).
- When you do use shampoo, don’t rub it into her head. Instead, string it in via a downward motion with your fingers, just so it touches the strands.
- Keep the hair as tight as possible to keep as much moisture in as possible.
- Always have a wide-toothed comb on hand. We have a few that look similar to this.
- Keep up with it all, do it daily, and make sure they get used to the brushing, pulling, and twisting (otherwise, they will have a really hard time at age 10).
Am I perfect? Ha. I never will be. I grew up (and still am this way) never, ever, ever doing my hair. I would go days without brushing it, and my mom would rather leave it than fight with me over it. To this day, I mostly wear my hair in a ponytail. It’s a rare occasion to see me do my hair.
But I don’t have a choice with my girls.
And you know what? The truth is that I’m actually starting to enjoy it. I enjoy the time with my girls. I enjoy helping them embrace something that is so incredibly beautiful and a part of who they are.
I’d never wish for any hair but the good hair God gave them.
p.s. When I was gone in Minnesota this past weekend, Ryan even got his healthy dose of practice, and I have to say that I came back to find the hair almost exactly how I had left it! Best daddy ever.