On page 23 of Present Over Perfect, Shauna Niequist states, ‘”The word sea-change is from Shakespeare, from The Tempest: a man is thrown into the sea, and under the water he is transformed from what he was into something entirely new something “rich and strange.“‘
On the very next page, she alludes to the idea that you can also have sea-change seasons.
I am in one of these sea-change seasons currently.
After feeling like I was drowning for several months, I’m finally starting to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I, too, was thrown into the sea this past year, and it has taken me a very long time to find my way out.
When I first started reading the book, I thought that in order to achieve present over perfect, I would need to do the very things Shauna was doing….scaling back, doing less, not working as much, etc. But then early on I realized that her means to present over perfect is not your means, nor is it my means. Her life is different than yours and mine, and in fact, your life is different than mine or anyone else’s.
Just as I approach diet for myself and clients on a basis for 100% individualization, so I have come to understand the same to be true for arriving at present over perfect.
In the depths of it all, I realized I was drowning because I was trying to be a 24/7 at-home mom like I thought I needed to be. During one season of life (when we only had one child), that’s what I wanted and what worked. But seasons change, and in this sea-change, my eyes finally opened and realized that right now I am meant to work full-time.
And if you want to know the truth, in just a matter of a few days this has helped me understand the concept of present over perfect more than anything else from this past year.
Our days at home are changing. It’s true. I am spending less time with Samarah, Isaiah, and Amiya, but I am 1,000% certain that the time I am spending with them is far more superior and quality than ever before.
When I’m with them, I’m more excited and present. I don’t multitask as much and feel more compelled to explore and have fun with them. (I’ll do a ‘What We Did Wednesday’ post soon so you can peek into our new daily routine.)
In working mothers, I stated,
No matter which working mothers camp you belong to, you can be certain that neither camp makes you a better or worse mother. In fact, some camps will make you a better mother, once you understand which camp is best for you.
That was at the beginning of January 2017.
In this season of sea-change, I learned the camp that’s best for me, for us, for now. From The Tempest, some will call it “rich,” others “strange,” but these are my ways to arrive at present over perfect.
Far from perfect, closer to present.
p.s. I didn’t take a full-time job that’s at an office outside our home. Part of this decision was knowing that with our unique circumstances I still need the flexibility at my fingertips. Instead, I took on another contract position (I’ll share more at some point) which makes my client roster full. I’ve stayed tight and focused, keeping all projects and work tied to my blog and the natural food industry. And I love, love, love, love, love it.
Question: Tell me about your own sea change. I’d love to hear about it!
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